When I was in 8th grade my middle school choir class went on a trip to New York City to perform in various competitions. My best friend (at the time) and I, were luckily both in choir and super pumped to explore the big city together. To no surprise of mine, my mom, in typical fashion, volunteered to be one of the chaperones for the weekend. A task she would often take, because being Iranian means your parents helicopter your every move.
At this point, you may be wondering where I am going with this story. Seems pretty innocent, right? Let’s set the stage. It’s 8th grade. A girl (me) and her best friend (unnamed) go on a choir field trip while one of their mom’s (mine) chaperones a group of 20 pre-teens. Well, no trick here, it was innocent. That was until my mom scoffed at the idea of me being lesbian. Then things got a little weird.
I think we can all agree that as we get older our circle of friends slowly starts to dwindle down as we navigate through life. Our journeys’ set sail in high school, where we are confined to four years in the hollows of a building from the hours of 7AM-2PM, befriending whoever happens to sit next to us in first period. Next, we mature our way into the land of college, where we gain independence and begin curating our niche group of friends based on various situational circumstances such as: ‘weekend friends’, ‘library friends’, and ‘workout friends’. Post-grad, however, starts to get a little more complicated. We’re officially “adults” (tbh the jury’s still out on that one), and we’re expected to embark on the real world with whatever irrelevant major we studied in hand, and are told to begin our careers based off absolutely no experience. Meanwhile, our meticulously hand-picked pool of friends we once felt secure with have either a) moved away to start a new and exciting venture, or b) are also navigating the next step of becoming real life “adults”. It’s a time of uncertainty, nostalgia, and fear with so much left to the unknown.
I think we can all agree that deciding on a career that is sustainable, yet something enjoyable often seems like an impossible feet. So what’s the better option? Doing something you’re not akin to that pays the bills, or love what you do and be scrounging for pennies? The politically correct answer is, “Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.” What a bunch of
bullshit. I mean we’ve all heard it before, but in the interest of staying true to myself and to this blog, I’m always going to keep it real with you guys and with that being said, here is my totally transparent opinion on the debate: you can’t have it all.
Let me take you way back.
The beginning of a relationship is so fun isn’t it? The adrenaline rush of meeting someone who makes your heart flutter, the constant, sometimes incessant overthinking, the ups and downs of the roller coaster ride we love to hate and hate to love. We’ve all been there.
It’s called the “Honeymoon Phase”.
Has anyone noticed the trend every. single. year. Ya know when everyone, everywhere is talking about what a terrible year 20-whatever was and how they can’t wait for it to be over? The sarcastic memes of “leaving 2018 in the trash with your ex…” seem to be flooding our Instagram feeds, and quite frankly, it’s getting repetitive. Let’s try something new this year. Instead of falling into the mundane and overly illustrated attitude of the “woe is me, thank goodness this is over” paradigm, let’s take a minute to reflect on lessons learned from the previous year. Let’s honor our growing pains and formulate fresh and empowering ways in which we can improve ourselves moving forward. Sound good? Continue reading
I first want to start this post off by explaining why I haven’t been putting up blog posts as consistently as before. Maybe you’ve noticed, maybe you haven’t. Most of you probably don’t give a shit if I post at all, but for the few people that do, here it is. I haven’t had much inspiration to sit down and write lately. Continue reading
It has been some time since I’ve sat down and let my fingers do the talking hasn’t it? While I would usually apologize for the inconsistency, this month I’m giving myself a free pass. Why? You may ask. Because IT’S MY BIRTHDAY MONTH! Continue reading
It has been said that any given person is the average of the 5 people they spend most of their time with. I’m sure we’ve all heard this saying before, right? But have you ever given yourself the time to really think about what that means for you? Continue reading
WHAT A MONTH January was, amirite?! Now that we’ve gotten through all the New Years resolutions, the motivated attitudes toward self betterment, and all those never-to-be-used-again gym memberships, let’s get down to what every one of you should be putting at the top of your resolutions list: you. Continue reading
There are so many emotions that run circles around that 8 letter word. Some people are running terrified, some embrace its beauty, some don’t even see it in their future. No matter what your sentiments may be, I’m here to tell you: the person you choose to marry is the most important decision you will ever make. More than where you decide to live, more that what colleges you apply to, even more than what career path you choose to follow. Continue reading